So you think you know, but you have no idea....

Salt and Pepper, Arroz con Frijoles, Men and Women.

mallarielima — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 07:58:01 +0000

All very different, but at their best when they are put together. So what is the problem?

According to my interviewee, “Mr. Left” this is the situation, so listen up ladies!

Mr. Left:

Generally, it is an instant attraction that by the first date, we figure out whether or not we want to pursue something. Now, do we know exactly what we want to pursue? Maybe not. It could be anything from a hook-up to a serious relationship. We need a little time to see what you are about. Usually, when we do have that initial attraction, it can simply be from a look you give us or a funny laugh. There is no formula to it. It is just something that happens that catches our attention. Then we think you are cute and the rest is history!….uh..not so much.

Then the test begins. Please, we do not like drama. Don’t call us and continue on about your gossip for the day. We don’t mind hearing some things you have to say on an issue, but let it out and then move on. Another thing, STOP the texting! It is annoying, and it shows the lack of attentiveness. You might think it is cute, along with trying to make us think you have a whole other life beside us, but to correct that theory, we don’t like it. It makes us want to take you home – and no, not go home together. Also, ladies, just a note, there is no need for you to put on make-up on in front of us. As long as you look like you take care of yourself, imperfections works for guys because we get to see the real you. Oh, and lastly cursing is not very attractive. Speak like the lady that you want to be treated, not like a drunken sailor.

Now, about the phone calls. This is the answer to the many questions, and when I say many, I mean MANY! If a guy is not into you, he will not make any contact, and so don’t call thinking maybe he just forgot or he is waiting for you to call. If he likes you, he will call you. Even, if he is playing some kind of game, he will eventually breakdown and call. So no contact = he is just not that into you.

Now if you want to call us, go ahead. We do like to know that the girl we are pursuing is interested, but please, no excessive phone calls. And try to read between the lines, if you call me, I obviously know that you are interested, and so if I don’t call you after that, game over. And also know this: men are natural hunters and conquers. We like the chase. A man will do what he wants to do and you can’t manipulate the situation to do otherwise or make him fall truly, madly, deeply in love with you. You can even get sexy and dress up, but what will he do? He’ll be with you for a night, then done!

In conclusion to this madness, we just want a confident, intelligent and independent girl that can hold her own and be real. Don’t try to fake who you are because the true you will always come out.

Well said…now…boys…it’s your turn. Listen very carefully. According to my second interviewee, Ms. Right, you guys have got a lot to learn, so catch up!

Ms. Right:

Instant attraction is important. Just like men, we typically know if we are going to pursue something or not. Don’t get me wrong, we can grow to like you, but that usually happens if we were friends first. Other than that, it all depends on the chemistry we have with you and if we felt an attraction to your looks and personality.

A confident but humble man is very sexy, and being funny and have me laughing is just icing on top of the cake! Also, good conversation is essential. No superficial conversation, but things that we find in common and have a passion for are best. If we have nothing in common, just stop there. Remember, we are women and love to talk and be understood. How can you understand me if we don’t connect on any level?

Now, the turn-offs…please do not come on too strong or smother us. This annoys us immediately because it shows desperation. Remember, we also like to have a little chase too! Another thing you guys should know is that watch what you say and how far you go with the compliments. If you are being a hands-on man that gawks at me all night, I am not that dumb to realize that you are probably saying the same thing to other girls or at least will do so in the future. So RETRACT that hand from my behind please!

Now, depending on our chemistry and if it is there, the game is on. We do like to be texted and called (not too much, but can be daily). And unfortunately, women do have some games, but I think men and women both do just in different ways. A lot of women do not call men, as Mr. Left said above, men are conquerors and us women know that! It doesn’t take a genius to figure it out. So, we will give you a little nugget/appetizer to hold on to, to let you know that we are into you, so that you know to come and get us. But now, it gets just a little more complicated because girls CAN give completely mixed feelings. We will call you and text you back just intending to be nice, but the fact of the matter is, we have no true intentions of dating you. The more you call, you will figure out whether we are feeling you or not. The signs usually consist of: continuous acceptance to hanging out and then we actually tell you. For the most part, when us women like someone, we will be up front and let you what we are feeling. I mean, after all, we are filled with emotions and love to share them.

In conclusion, once we click with you, we would just like you to be sincere and respectful. Be a true man who is strong and not afraid to give love a try. We love to be loved and cared about. Also, for many women, affection is key! If we don’t feel you are giving us what we need, we will either A: drive you crazy! Or B: Fire you and kick you to the curb! But if this situation does occur and you actually would like to continue, don’t detach!! It will not be pretty!

Now with everything said, do you agree?!? Or would you like to add anything?

Please feel free to share your thoughts.

Thanks to: Mr. Left and Ms. Right!

Dedicated to your cardio, and still not getting the results you want??

mallarielima — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 06:41:26 +0000

Many people, especially women devote most of their time in the gym to aerobic and cardio activities, while hardly ever touching the weight floor. Is this you? Do you want to know the real deal?

Ok, listen up! You can spend hours doing cardio, but the fact is, you may feel smaller, but the fat on your body will not decrease, but maybe even increase. Muscle is what burns fat, and without lean muscle on your body, you will never obtain the body fat percentage that you want. Also, the more cardio you do without weight training, the more muscle you will break down – not good!

So why else should we weight train? There are many physical and health benefits to strength training as long as the program is designed properly and performed correctly.

First! You will burn more calories. Weight training builds lean muscle, which then helps our bodies consume more energy (burn calories). It also gives our body a chance to burn calories after we leave the gym by the growth and repair stage of our muscles. So when you are at home, watching your favorite show, you will be burning calories! Now, I don’t know what can be better than that!

Second! You will increase bone density. Strength training also helps make our bones stronger. This is very important, especially for women, who are usually more susceptible to osteoporosis.

Third! Weight training will actually increase energy and self-esteem. Working with weights will boost our metabolism, which helps us burn more calories, and at the same time increases our energy levels. When energy levels increase, self-esteem follows. Training is proven not only to change our bodies physically, but also to help us mentally and psychologically, making a person feel like they never felt before!

Lastly, and this is for the ladies…GET OVER IT!!! YOU WILL NOT BULK UP AND LOOK LIKE A MAN! We don’t produce enough testosterone for this to happen. Keep it simple. Get the weights and get moving!

Happy Training!

‘Tis The Season of Giving

mallarielima — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 05:47:13 +0000

It’s that time of year. Love is in the air. There is a spring in your step. It’s cold outside, so you are warming up inside next to the fireplace with a hot chocolate (ok…not so much for us Floridians, but you get the picture), and we all have this sense of wanting to give and help others. Well it is great to know that the IRS looks favorably upon this action. So when you give, you can also get – a tax deduction. This deduction is only available to taxpayers whose itemized deductions are greater than their standard deduction. Therefore, for 2009, your itemized deductions must be over $11,400 on a joint return and $5,700 for a single. For years, Congress has been talking about charitable contribution deductions for non-itemizers, but this has still not been passed. For our itemizers, there are a few things I want you to keep in mind when filing your 2009 Form 1040. First and foremost, the contributions must be made to qualified organizations. Therefore if you made donations to any political campaigns in 2009, they are NOT deductible. Secondly, the IRS has tightened their rules for charitable giving. It is very important that you keep your receipts, especially for donations that exceed $250. The IRS states no receipt, no deduction. The receipt should include: the organization name, the date of the donation and the donation amount. Thirdly, for non-cash donations, it is important that the charity not only give you a receipt, but also state the fair market value of the items given. If the non-cash donation exceeds $500, you must fill out a Form 8283 and attach it to your 2009 Form 1040, and if exceeds $5,000, in addition to the form, you must also obtain a qualified appraisal. Lastly, if you attended any events to support a qualified good cause such as a charity ball, banquet, or sporting event, you can only deduct the amount that exceeds the fair market value of the benefit received. Therefore, if you supported Golfing FORE a Cause on November 7^th for the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society, you now have an additional $35 tax deduction that you can claim on your Form 1040 for 2009!

If you have any additional questions on this subject, just ask!

Also, as 2010 approaches, I wish you and your families a wonderful end of the year! And as the season of giving also comes to a close, I hope that you will continue to “Live to Love” and not stop here. Life is short, and so live fully, live with intention, and love passionately! We are blessed!

In the spirit of love,

Mallarie Lima

For more information and updates, go to: http://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc506.html